On Seduction: Part I

This ancient art has made many a “plain” or even historically “unattractive” individual into an icon of beauty and desire!

What was the secret?  A magick potion, of course . . .concocted of an understanding of basic communication, confidence, passion and magnetic energy!

Today the same blending of energies works to a similar end for both men and women alike.  The trick is understanding yourself deeply first and the person of your desire next.

Lets begin with a few simple guidelines:

1.     Present yourself as you see yourself! You must be able to wear not only the clothing, but also the energy of WHOM you are presenting to the world!  Ease up on the cologne or perfume and remember that cleanliness is always extremely attractive . . .

a.     What makes you feel attractive, irresistible?

b.     How would your two best friends describe your personality?

c.      How do you WANT to be described and seen?

d.     What type of person are you trying to attract?

Working with your responses above, you will be able to fine-tune your image, bringing it into alignment with your sexy-self!

2.     Practice making eye contact! Eye contact is sexy!  The eyes are vehicles that can convey mystery, desire, passion, boredom and hundreds of other emotions!  Gazing into the eyes of your partner shows interest and desire.  Staring, on the other hand, can be creepy!  So practice in a mirror, or with a friend who wants to support the fine-tuning of your awakening mojo.

3.     How do you like to be touched? This is an important question to consider, and a great place to start in seducing your partner.  You will, of course, need to make the appropriate modifications in physical contact with your partner based on the following cues.

a.     Verbal requests. (My favorite and direct approach to desire fulfillment!  If offered as a positive statement, these tend to get the best results the fastest!) “I really like when you. . .”  And unless you have pre-established a specific “safe word,” “No” ALWAYS means NO!

b.     Verbal response.  Groans, moans and other verbal cues should let you know when your partner is indicating a positive response.  Pay attention, because this may often be your only cue as to what is working . . . or what is not.

c.      Physical response. Anything from cringing to leaning in is important!  A gentle repositioning of a hand or other body part is probably not a mistake! Go where you are guided, provided you are comfortable doing so! If, on the other hand you are deflected or re-directed . . . honor the unspoken request or you will probably not be invited for seconds . . .

4.     Know when to talk and when to put a sock in it! There is an inordinate amount of bad dialogue in porn videos.  Sadly, they are America’s number one training mechanism for most men, and some women as well.  Find out if your partner is turned on by chatter or turned off by it!

a.     Talking Dirty.  Anything from “traditional” four letter words to name-calling can fall into this category.  Be aware that most women do not like being referred to as “whores” during sexual encounters.

b.     Reassurance.  It isn’t sexy to constantly seek reassurance, and it ruins the mood!  If your partner likes it, they’ll give you the signs above!  If you can’t read the signs, ask your partner to help you learn to read them.

c.      Loud Sex.  Some people can’t help it.  Genuine vocalizing can be a hot part of passion.  It can also be a distraction.  Work with your partner to find a happy medium for vocal expression.

PART II  coming soon . . .