On Fairness

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The Libra in me is in a constant state of judgment in its search for balance.  Upon exposure to perceived hypocrisy, untruth, favoritism or lack of integrity, its hackles go up and the scales tip, seeking to correct the injustice.  And each time, I ask myself, “why?”

Why does it matter what others are doing?  Why does it matter what they think or say?  And what does it really have to do with who I am, anyway?

Life isn’t fair.

These words echo in most of our ears, drilled in from early childhood and reaffirmed over and over as we grow into adults.  Yet the need for things to be fair lies within us, constantly rebalancing our interaction with others and shaping the worlds in which we live and grow.  Can it be overcome?  Should it be overcome?

There is a universal balancing mechanism in play which naturally re-harmonizes spiritual energy.  Known by various names, it is a return of energy to the sender, amplified as it moves through different vibratory frequencies.  Its implication is that any energy sent out, be it thought, word or action, is increased and then returned to the sender directly in various forms through which balance is eventually restored.  For those of us seeking instant remedy, there may be some frustration associated with this, as the universe does not work according to our individual timetables.

When there is a “wrong” done against us (real or imagined), why does earn hours of our frustration and energy?  Perhaps this is the best question.  The teaching is that anything bothering me is simply a reflection of my unresolved emotional wounds and attachments.

Great!  Someone’s clearly unjust acts bother me and it’s on me?!

Not exactly . . . We don’t have control over what someone else does, says or thinks.  We simply must understand that there are two sides to everything.  And sometimes more!  Why something bothers us personally is something we are responsible for addressing.  Only upon healing our personal attachment to it, can we move past it.

We all make choices based on our personal life experiences.  Our woundings, our strengths, our passions, our fears, our egos . . . and sometimes, our spiritual guidance . . .

When someone acts out of integrity, s/he is doing so from someplace outside of an empowered space.  We have a choice to respond from our own wounds or from a place of personal empowerment.  Our response resonates light or deepens the grooves of our pain’s darkness.

Insisting upon our definition of fairness in all life’s experiences gives strength to our shadows and wages a battle we cannot win.  Living in integrity shines light into the world and the faces lurking within our personal darkness.  We cannot control others, nor should we seek to do so.

We can, however, make personal choices that exemplify and facilitate Harmony, Optimism, Passion and Empowerment.  We can live what we speak and desire & shift that which causes spiritual or physical disruption within us and around us.  Only then will our need for “fairness” fade to compassion, humility and continued personal growth as well as the ability to live without judgment and fear.